Courage to being disliked - Adler’s Psychology Adler’s key points - People are not affected by past traumas and emotions, they set out a goal and actively pursue that goal. If you want to change your life, you need to change the end goal. Every problem in life is interpersonal problems - that is when you involve others into the equations . And the goal of interpersonal relationships is to have a sense of feeling that it is okay to be here. In other words a sense of contribution for the community. A sense of worthiness You can achieve this by doing following things - Separation of tasks - what are my tasks and what are other tasks Life is not a competition Desire for recognition comes from a sense of lacking mindset, you are craving recognition as an easy fix for feeling worthiness Always build a horizontal relationships not a hierarchical one - we are equal but not the same Life earnestly in the present moment , here and now !! there is nothing else , no past , no future. You do not have any other choice than to be courageous and life to its fullest, with mistakes Adler’s Psychological terminologies - Etiology - the present life you are leading is because of these events that happened in your life. it is because of these traumas and events you are feeling like this. Theology - You are not bound by the past experiences, those are just events you are giving meaning to those events as you see fit. you have decided on a goal either consciously or unconsciously and based on that scale you are giving meaning to past events. Personalities are lifestyles - you define them and you can change it Kinetic Life - When someone views life as a straight line where the end goal is a destination Energial Life - when someone views life as a series of moments , you have to live for each moments , there is no end goal to reach , you live from one moment to another. Life lie- ones swifts the blame on others or the environment Encouragements is a way of offering help without meddling with other person’s tasks. Pursuit of easy superiority - By being extremely mischevious or naughty you gain a sense of belonging and feeling of worthiness because you gain the attention of teachers and higher authorities. You are not bound by the past experiences ...